They Come Through You But They are Not From You

Your children are not your children

Your children are not your children
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself
They come through you but they are not from you
And though they are with you they belong not to you
You can give them your love but not your thoughts
They have their own thoughts
They have their own thoughts
You can house their bodies but not their souls
For their souls dwell in a place of tomorrow
Which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams
You can try to be like them
But you can not make them just like you..
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I am pretty sure I had nothing to do with the way my kids have turned out. My husband and I raised our boys in this house together. We had strong ideas about what kind of parents we wanted to be and what kind of kids we wanted to raise.  We like to think of ourselves as progressive, open-minded people. We like to think of ourselves as accepting. We like to think of ourselves as people who think everyone should have a fair shake in life. Yet, somehow, we ended up with young adults who are much better certainly than I am. They are kinder people. They are more in tune with those who marginalized in our society. They see beauty in people. They seek justice. They are lovers of animals. And they have faith that they can make their world a better place. They certainly have their own thoughts. I sure do enjoy watching them emerge into young adulthood. If you have had any involvement in raising children you know that they become their own person. All you can do is stand back and admire what they have become.

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